Idag höll jag mitt andra tal på Toastmaster. Temat var ”Organize your speech”, och titeln på talet var ”Do you listen?”

Do you listen?

 

When was the last time you listened?

I mean, really listened…

 

Because there’s a difference between hearing and listening

Hearing is easy. We do it all the time, even when we don’t want to.

Listening, on the other hand, is a skill that is very rare.

 

When I was a kid, I loved this girl [show book]. Her name is Momo, and she’s

the main character of this book.

Please raise your hands if you’ve read it

 

For you who haven’t: let me tell you about Momo.

She’s not like other people.

She’s dressed in an old, out worn suit that’s way too big for her.

She doesn’t know where she’s from, or how old she is, and she lives in an

abandoned amphitheatre outside a small town.

At first appearance she’s just a lost child.

But people start to visit her, and the more they do, the more they realize that

they need her.

She becomes indispensible to them, and after a while they don’t understand

how they could have survived without her.

 

So what is it that makes her so special?

She listens.

She listens so good that the most stupid people get the most intelligent ideas.

She listens so good that the most indecisive people knows what to do.

And she listens so good that the shyest people feel brave and the unhappiest

people feel happy.

 

That’s how good she is at listening.

 

So I ask you again: When was the last time you really listened?

 

So what!?

Why should I listen?

 

Because listening is not one of those things that you lose when you give it away

It connects us to the world and to other people

It gives us the ability to change perspective

 

But when we don’t listen we distance ourselves from each other

We narrow our view, and we understand  less of the world

 

So what is bad listening?

Let me give you 3 examples:

 

1: Distracted Listening

We spend 60 % of our communicating time listening, but we only recall 25 %.

1/4 words.

Statistically you’re only going to remember 90 seconds of this speech.

Let’s hope that you can do better than that

We are distracted.

We eavesdrop on other conversations, we try to remember where we put our

keys, we use this [show phone] all the time, we worry about that text that we

never got.

And we pretend to listen instead of actually listening

 

2: Egocentric Listening

We’re all egocentric to some degree

It’s not that strange; after all we’re the main characters of our lives

But we sometimes focus too much on our selves [show mirror]

And forget the people we are talking to

We make the conversation about us, we filter every word and interpret them

in our own ways, we change the subject to something that is more interesting

to us

And we spend so much time thinking what to say, because we’re afraid to

sound stupid

 

3: Impatient Listening

We live in a time where everything moves very quickly

Get to the point [show watch]

Say what you want to say, or don’t say it.

We fear the silence

It scares us because in it we can hear our own thoughts

 

So what is the alternative?

 

1: Put aside your Distraction

You think that you can multitask

You can’t

Focus your full attention on the other person

Be present

 

2: Put aside your Egocentrism

Try to understand

Be curious instead of judging

Listening is not about me

It’s about you

 

3: Put aside your Time

Make time to listen

Ask yourself what you’re rushing towards

Don’t fear the silence

Embrace it

 

So

Toastmaster

Ladies and Gentlemen

 

Be like Momo.

 

Listen so that the most stupid people get the most intelligent ideas

Listen so that the most indecisive people know what to do

And listen so that the shyest people feel brave and the unhappiest people feel happy.

 

Thank you!

 

Utvärdering

Överlag är jag nöjd med talet. Jag kände mig ännu mer avslappnad än senast och upplevde att jag fick bättre respons från publiken. Det gick dessutom snabbare att skriva det här talet, och jag lade mindre tid på att träna in det (delvis för att jag litade mer på mig själv den här gången och var mindre rädd för att komma av mig).

Språket

+ Välstrukturerat tal

+ Välbalanserat språk

+ Jag lyckades slänga in dagens ord (limitless) i talet

– Kom av mig helt vid ett tillfälle (hanterade det dock på ett bra sätt)

– Några felformuleringar

– Stapplade med orden vid ett par tillfällen

Kroppsspråket

+ Kliade mig inte i ansiktet (vilket jag gjorde i första talet)

+ Rörde mig självsäkert

– Gestikulerade för mycket med högerhanden (kan ha mer balans mellan höger och vänster)

– Kan ta ut svängarna mer, ha större variation i kroppsspråket

– Kan ha bättre ögonkontakt med publiken

Rösten

+ Pratade lugnt och självsäkert

+ Vågade vara tyst

– Kan variera röstläget mer (svagt/starkt, allvarligt/lättsamt)

– Kan visa mer inlevelse

 

Sammanfattning

Jag känner mig glad över att ha slutfört mitt andra tal och vågar påstå att jag börjar bli varm i kläderna (eller åtminstone ljummen). Eftersom jag använde rekvisita den här gången (boken, mobilen, spegeln och klockan) hade jag mer att tänka på jämfört med det första talet, och jag är generellt nöjd med prestationen.

Ha det fint så hörs vi snart igen!

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